The Perks Of Online Friends/Relationships

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    • The Perks Of Online Friends/Relationships

      So, today I want to talk about something that probably a lot of you have heard of, been through or even thought of at one time:
      Online friends/relationships

      From my perspective, I've met a lot of people that are better than my real life friends on the internet. With facebook, the forums and even Deviantart to help you find these people it's rather easy these days to find people with the same interests as you.
      The people I've met on the forums are probably the nicer bunch with a few that are assholes to just about anyone, although I'd rather not talk about those people.
      To name a few people off that I've really become friends with would be hard, because of all the kind people I know these days. For the most part though, these people are the ones you'll see the most on the forums, such as mods, popular dwellers and even a few of the unknown people that come online sometimes and then vanish away again.

      The second thing I stated, is Online Relationships, and I'm not talking Eharmony here people!

      Online relationships have a bad rap in my opinion, since most people think: Oh little girls and pedos! But really, the people who I talk to and fall in love with, aren't really the type that are 'pedos' unless you would count Mkerix as one[I wouldn't]. I for one think that online relationships are a good way to meet people and get to know them for who they really are, rather than looking at a picture of them and saying: OH WOW YOU ARE HOT or OH WOW YOU'RE UGLY AS FUCKING SHIT. You see them as how you know them, like...for example, when I was talking to Mkerix in the beginning to know him, I noticed that he seemed to enjoy talking with me, as he would say hi to me and care about how I felt that day. I somewhat was thinking that he might like me, although I wasn't sure. But, we're together now, all that matters. c:

      So my question to all of you people is this:

      Do you have online friends/an online relationship?
      -If yes, what advice do you have for others
      -What's your favorite moment with an online friend
      -What upsets you about having an online relationship or friend?
      -And Who are your online friends?

      My advice is this: Make it work, no matter what, you have to work sometimes to get things to go your way, save up money to visit them, or ask your family if you'll be near them anytime soon.

      My favorite moment with an online friend was when Dano told me that another user called him a nigger, and we started to converse on how an Italian man was black. This instantly made me lol.

      I think the thing that upsets me the most is the distance, especially since a lot of my friends live in Italy, Germany, Sweden and even out in a few states.

      A few of my online friends:
      Gizelle, Heiko, Daniel, Shaun, Xebbie, Rohan, Poya, Zan, Lamex, Veeks and Wolf.
      If you didn't make the list, well, I forgot you, but I love you all c: <3
      PS Proxy is on the list too, because reasons.


      "Lefi is lefi
      if someone try to change lefi
      lefi will be mad
      lefi will fak yer shit up"
      Brootal c:

      I love Mkerix, more than my Pokemon.<3

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    • I have a shit ton of online friends, but I'm not sure about online relationships. I mean, it's cool and all if it's serious and you two plan to actually have a relationship, but if it just contains sexting and picture-sending, I don't count that at all. But, yeah, I've tried the whole online relationship thing before. Never really worked out.

    • 'TisBen wrote:

      I have a shit ton of online friends, but I'm not sure about online relationships. I mean, it's cool and all if it's serious and you two plan to actually have a relationship, but if it just contains sexting and picture-sending, I don't count that at all. But, yeah, I've tried the whole online relationship thing before. Never really worked out.


      It takes a lot of thought to it I think, as well as just making sure you keep in touch and they are a right match for you. Sexting isn't the best idea, since pics could go anywhere on the internet and phone. But it's not for everyone ^^


      "Lefi is lefi
      if someone try to change lefi
      lefi will be mad
      lefi will fak yer shit up"
      Brootal c:

      I love Mkerix, more than my Pokemon.<3

    • Well, almost everyone around here have an online friends i suppose. My favourite moment is probably the moment when me and one of my friends having a deep conversation in minecraft, then suddenly my best friend came by and pour a bucket of lava right in front of us. And the best thing about online relationship is... No one will ever knew that you're a duck... No one....

      If you're angry, don't break anybody's heart, they only have one..... Break their bones, they have 206 of them

    • First of all DAMN YOU CHILD FOR NOT ADDING ME TO THE LIST! The beating with the wet fish across your face shall begin in 3...2...1...Only kidding...or am I? or am I kidding?...But wait I might not be!

      Anyway I think online friends is a great way to meet new people. 95% of my friends are online and generally they get replaced constantly as the years go by. I find that friends online are easy to achieve and to let go if they drift away because well you were never that attached to them to begin with. The funny thing is though that online friendships can develop faster than in real life. Why? Because of the anonymity. There is are no ties or expectations. If you see that person's status go green then you are generally good to go for continuing to chat away while generally friends in real life like to have a certain amount of space at times.

      Online relationships on the other hand are a grey area. If you live hundreds of miles apart then no it is not worth it because you are both denying each other the happiness and fulfillment of a real relationship. I had given online dating a go or two during my college days out of curiousity and in a way it is a tough sell. You could be chatting to someone for a long time and feel sure they are meant for you until the day you finally meet and they are the polar opposite. This again comes from anonymity because people's personalities are not always the same as they are in person.

      This is generally true of all the bags of friends I have because they may come off as jack asses on the net but be totally buds in person. This is especially true of a friend who went on a round the world trip with his friend recently. He had the time to come visit me in my home city and we got to chill out for the first time ever and I live in the UK and he in Canada. He is a solid dude both on the net and real life but his personality is a little more distant via the web.

      As you said online relationships don't work unless you make it work but how much work is it worth when you finally meet and realise you don't feel the way you do for that person like when you are both online? It is a situation that has happened to many if not everyone at some point in their life or will if they take that road.
      There is always time for muffins.

    • Noirproxy wrote:

      As you said online relationships don't work unless you make it work but how much work is it worth when you finally meet and realise you don't feel the way you do for that person like when you are both online? It is a situation that has happened to many if not everyone at some point in their life or will if they take that road.


      I think you should at least meet once before calling it off in my opinion. It might be strange meet them irl and such, but at least you see how they act in public and how they act around you in real life. There's a lot that you can tell from a person after meeting them once. Plus, I guess you could weigh the fact if it's worth it or not, or as you said that you realize that you don't like them irl.

      The work I mean, is when you need to meet them at first time, and then afterward if it went well and you think it's worth it to pursue them more, getting to see them more often or making a date where you will meet up again. ^^
      But it's true, sometimes it's easier to let people go that you don't know as well.


      "Lefi is lefi
      if someone try to change lefi
      lefi will be mad
      lefi will fak yer shit up"
      Brootal c:

      I love Mkerix, more than my Pokemon.<3

    • why didnt I make the list :'c you added me on skype did that mean nothing to you?

      jk, half of my relationships where online, and most of my closest friends are my online friends c: so I understand what you are saying Leafy

      Examples: SuukIChu, (not Leafy) KitKat16, (not Leafy) Zoeo, (not Leafy) and other people in my friendslist (other than Leafy)
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    • TIMMY WAI. :C
      I SAID I LOVE YOU ALL. XDD Okay okay, fien. YOU WILL BE ON THE LIST AS WELL....just when I am not dying from the lack of sleep I'm having.


      "Lefi is lefi
      if someone try to change lefi
      lefi will be mad
      lefi will fak yer shit up"
      Brootal c:

      I love Mkerix, more than my Pokemon.<3

    • I love forums, I can make tons of friends. And out of every forum I have been on, this one has been one where I have met tons of nice people. People that I have grown very close too and that I talk to everyday. <3

      I personally don't like online relationships for several reasons. Everyone is different and if they can make it work than that's alright..
      I have noticed a lot about people on the internet. They may act one way but be completely different.

      1. For one, they can be very romantic and outgoing in front of the screen, but when it comes to RL they may be shy.
      2. You never know who they actually are, if they are really real, or what their life
      is really like. That would mean the relationship would run on trust.
      3. You don't know what there relations are like with people or what their personality is really like..
      4. How is it a relationship if you can't go out and do stuff? A relationship with only RP and flirting can't be considered a real relationship.. (again all opinion)

      What I would reccomend is.. Don't do online dating unless you plan on seeing them very soon.
      But some people like Leavy make it work, it's just not for me.

      Some of the close friends I met on here are:
      Chad (GmodGuildmater), TimmyCr4ft, Blade (deadbart99), Chel, PhaZe and a lot others. :)

      I am very grateful for this forum and the friendships I have gained. <3

    • >:-( *Slowly turns and aims the wet, flacid fish at SuukiChu with an angry bottom lip expression*

      Why am I not on that list?!

      I agree with Suuki though if you can make it work then props to you but if you require more than the artifical cover of your opposite's online persona then a net relationship isn't the best of choice.
      There is always time for muffins.

    • i am in a internet relationship.. wanna know who wtih?

      all will become clear in time young one
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    • Well, I met my girlfriend online on Facebook. And adding her on FB was the best thing I ever did. And I am saving up, and planning to meet her very soon.


      And, I met lots and lots of awesome friends online. Mostly, this forum. And honestly, they are better than the friends I interact with each day. For one thing, I can be myself around of them.


      What I have to say is, if you're gonna do online dating, and if you think you can make it work [as in, plan to be together someday other than keep texting for the rest of your lives] then do it. Just make sure that you guys meet and live together or something soon enough.

      My favorite moment is currently an interesting one. So interesting that I made a blog entry about it. *looks over at Dano*
      Other than that, all the times when I talk to my friends are my favorite moments.


      Well, it kinda upsets me that I don't get to be near her she's sad. And when I need to be with her. That is the only thing that upsets me; not being with her.

      I have lots of online friends.
      A lot of them.
      People I like, and talked to are on this --> i.imgur.com/bXs2i.jpg


      And those apart, here are my friends who I consider to be true as fuck and my online family tree.
      Poya[dad], Anna[sister], Giszelle[sister], Jenna[sister], Julien[son], Dano[godfather], Holly[godmother] and Nina[granddaughter]


      Don't try logic on that family shit. ^

    • Do you have online friends/an online relationship?

      Not an online relationship, but I am in a relationship.. I have online friends, and I'm SO glad I met them. They are the most amazing people ever, and they're barking mad if they think they aren't.

      -If yes, what advice do you have for others?

      If you are in an online relationship, do at least try to meet up so it isn't all tapping keys all the time..

      -What's your favorite moment with an online friend?

      Probably when I told Gabe about the dream I had when he climbed out out my computer and my mum walked in and asked if he wanted meatlaof for dinner, and then said,'Oh wait, Americans don't eat meatloaf'. We ended up chasing a lady with a stupid beehive haircut through my 100 metre long mansion that had NO CEILING. I explained this all, and the first thing Gabe says?

      'I don't even LIKE meatloaf.'

      LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

      -What upsets you about having an online relationship or friend?

      The fact that I'll never be able to go to certain states in America anytime soon where I met my first best friends.. Or that I can't go to the Maldives or Sweden in a time I can see from here, just basically that I won't be able to see them in the near or relatively distant future. And I want to give them real hugs, not virtual ones ;( I still love you guys <3

      -And Who are your online friends?

      I've been waiting for this one:
      -Sharky
      -Giszelle
      -Fiona
      -Gabe
      -Dale
      -Julien
      -Pontus
      -Nipple
      -Link
      -Pontus
      -Kevin
      -Aiden
      -MGA
      -Holly
      -Poya

      These people are mediocre, average at best.

      LOLJKILYGISE.

    • I honestly didn't feel like saying this but You know what I am going to say this.

      I honestly think online relationships can work out of the person you are in a relationship (after they know your real and not some googled picture) with someone you trust, know very well, and you know you are truly in love with, you know someone you could imagine a family with. cuz I believe love can overcome any obstacle, may it be distance, pain, or any other sort of conflict, love will find a way. There are 7 billion people on this planet, and there is one person out there for you, and there is a possibility they don't even live near you, so I do believe that internet relationships can work and I know 2 people who actually ended up married to each other after meeting each other on an MMO I used to play. and they internet dated for a few years. there will be a bunch of people who can disagree with me but what I say is the truth in my mind.

      occasional visit would help strengthen the bond between the two people, hopefully they dont propose on the internet, cuz once you meet irl its back to square one, hugging :3

      besides there are some nice people in areas where nice people are rare so their only choice is to have an internet relationship.

      well that is my point about internet relationships, sure there will always be haters around. I just try to not let them change my beliefs
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    • timmy i may be a bit of an asshole when it comes to mentioning love


      but.....


      i fucking love you sometimes for how deep you can be
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    • Yeah... so I HAD a lot of online friends for only a couple days ago, but somehow I found out that someone was lying and telling my other online friend that I was talking shit about hir, witch I haven't. So now I only got some left that I really love and trust completely.

      If you're online friends with someone or in a relationship it could be a good idea to Skype with eachother, because then you can actually feel how it is to be around them.

      It sucks because now that one of my best online friends quit and deactivated him Facebook, I have no idea where to find him. So I will probably never have the chance to talk to him again just because of a stupid missunderstanding.
      No I'm not fine, thanks for not asking.

      Want a cupcake? c: