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    • Depressed? Talk about it here!

      Hi, I'm Qustinnus.

      I have dealt with alot of social problems, And i know how to deal with them, if you feel sad or insecure talk about it here and i'lll try to help you,
      I was depressed not so long ago about my girlfriend, But i came over it really fast by the support of my friends (This forum also really supported me.)

      So please, if you have any problems. Tell me about it and i'll try to help you as much as i can. ;)

    • I actually have Social Anxiety, was all good a few years ago, but now I can't even go down to the store to buy food and such, just feels terrible. Whenever I actually go down there my heart starts rushing, gets hard to breathe, sometimes I start to shake aswell. Been talking to a counselor(not sure if it's the right word) but it havn't really helped.

      Anyone have any ideas of things that could help me get over this?
      -brofist-

    • Meows wrote:

      I actually have Social Anxiety, was all good a few years ago, but now I can't even go down to the store to buy food and such, just feels terrible. Whenever I actually go down there my heart starts rushing, gets hard to breathe, sometimes I start to shake aswell. Been talking to a counselor(not sure if it's the right word) but it havn't really helped.

      Anyone have any ideas of things that could help me get over this?
      I can kind of understand that, You have a much worse case, I'm just shy. But that's really hard.

      Just imagine the store as a forum, The forum isn't hard to talk in right?

    • Qustinnus wrote:

      Meows wrote:

      I actually have Social Anxiety, was all good a few years ago, but now I can't even go down to the store to buy food and such, just feels terrible. Whenever I actually go down there my heart starts rushing, gets hard to breathe, sometimes I start to shake aswell. Been talking to a counselor(not sure if it's the right word) but it havn't really helped.

      Anyone have any ideas of things that could help me get over this?
      I can kind of understand that, You have a much worse case, I'm just shy. But that's really hard.

      Just imagine the store as a forum, The forum isn't hard to talk in right?
      Only problem is that in the store I actually have to meet people. But It's a good suggestion to be honest.
      -brofist-

    • Meows wrote:

      I actually have Social Anxiety, was all good a few years ago, but now I can't even go down to the store to buy food and such, just feels terrible. Whenever I actually go down there my heart starts rushing, gets hard to breathe, sometimes I start to shake aswell. Been talking to a counselor(not sure if it's the right word) but it havn't really helped.

      Anyone have any ideas of things that could help me get over this?


      I feel you bro. But like Qustinnus said, think it as a forum. Don't think it as barrel though.xD I guess you have to find stephano in your life. That would be much easier since you have someone to back you up.:D

      Stephano=bestfriend or something like that

    • Meows wrote:

      I actually have Social Anxiety, was all good a few years ago, but now I can't even go down to the store to buy food and such, just feels terrible. Whenever I actually go down there my heart starts rushing, gets hard to breathe, sometimes I start to shake aswell. Been talking to a counselor(not sure if it's the right word) but it havn't really helped.

      Anyone have any ideas of things that could help me get over this?

      I don't have anxiety quite as bad, but I know what that feels like. Sometimes, there are certain things that just trigger the nervous feeling without knowing what it is exactly. What you'll need to do to overcome it is to test your comfort zone; gradually move from a very comfortable situation to a sort of comfortable one, and then participate in things which do make you feel anxious. I've been seeing a therapist for about four months now, and that was her advice to me. As of right now, I'm participating in a therapy group for people who have social anxiety. Perhaps this would be a good place to start? That way, you can keep in mind that you aren't the only one with this problem, and no one will judge harshly. It's really a good feeling, and personally I find it to be a big help. =)

    • to meows.

      I know where your coming from bro, believe me, I use to be so much like you when I was just a teen entering adulthood, the stress you put yourself under just to take a trip to your local town or even a hair cut becomes overwhelming, its stops you leaving the house you become recluse because it better not to deal with your anxieties... And its f**kin mad it makes you feel that way.. In my case it wasnt the best thing to do because I turned to drugs and drink to cope with my " issues " and anyone would know that's not the way to deal with your problems, I took professional help from seeing shrinks and councilors but to be hobest, it did not help me and problems just spiraled out of control and I want to tell you bro about this because I really know what your going through and my advice to you is that you probably feel like your the only one who feels like you do but you are not alone, you will grow to understand why you are the way you are and you become more confident in your own skin and when you ever feel like you can't do " normal " things just tell yourself to fuck it and get on with it, you will find your own way and I turned out alright, I got married and had a son and after he was born i didn't care about the world anymore, but I think you understand what I'm trying to say. Your normal bro. Everyone has got issues. Just people deal with em differently even if there confident, that's just a mask itself. Keep ya chin up bruv ... Oh and for anyone who reads this I've been clean for 3 years. Hope this help meow.

    • Thank you so much everyone, just sitting here and reading your solutions and tips helps. I guess all I have to do is to try them out in the real world.
      I'm actually getting a haircut this week and since I'm free this week I've picked a time where there isn't too crowded so hopefully I will still be in that comfortable zone unlike the store where there are 40-50 people around me all the time.

      I will post in this thread after I've had my haircut.

      Myst wrote:

      I'm participating in a therapy group for people who have social anxiety. Perhaps this would be a good place to start?
      I might actually try this, thanks for the tip!



      II LOXO II wrote:

      Hope this help meow.
      Right now I feel like I can handle this without any problems, I've never really been that confident, but now I do. I'll certainly try to work this all out
      -brofist-

    • Meows wrote:

      Thank you so much everyone, just sitting here and reading your solutions and tips helps. I guess all I have to do is to try them out in the real world.
      I'm actually getting a haircut this week and since I'm free this week I've picked a time where there isn't too crowded so hopefully I will still be in that comfortable zone unlike the store where there are 40-50 people around me all the time.

      I will post in this thread after I've had my haircut.

      Myst wrote:

      I'm participating in a therapy group for people who have social anxiety. Perhaps this would be a good place to start?
      I might actually try this, thanks for the tip!



      II LOXO II wrote:

      Hope this help meow.
      Right now I feel like I can handle this without any problems, I've never really been that confident, but now I do. I'll certainly try to work this all out
      This is why i made this thread.

    • My best friend, on steam that is...Always frustrates out on me...But this time it was REALLY bad..She deleted me too,


      I've been heartbroken 3 times in a month. (1.girlfriend breaks up 2. I back out of a crush for a fellow bro (Hurt me the most) and 3. I lost my best friend)



      Oh god this wont stop :x

    • Qustinnus wrote:

      My best friend, on steam that is...Always frustrates out on me...But this time it was REALLY bad..She deleted me too,


      I've been heartbroken 3 times in a month. (1.girlfriend breaks up 2. I back out of a crush for a fellow bro (Hurt me the most) and 3. I lost my best friend)



      Oh god this wont stop :x
      I can actually relate to that, not everything in a month, but yeah, I know what they all feel like. Unfortunately the best thing I can say is to look past it all and just keep going :/ <3


      I went to get my haircut today, turned out to not be a part of my comfortable zone at all, I couldn't even tell them how I wanted to get my hair done.. I'm thinking, maybe I should try to talk to a random person on my way to school or something, just ask some simple question as "do you have a lighter" or something like that, and if it feels alright I'll just keep doing it until I feel comfortable talking to random persons. What do you guys think?
      -brofist-