Parents divorcing. What can I do?

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    • Parents divorcing. What can I do?

      My dad and mom fight so hard yesterday. It's the second time in my life I saw they fighting. The first was about 3 months, for the same subject : mutual infidelity. My dad went home today and mom is crying. What can I do? I never expect this.
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    • Oh no! I'm very sorry about that,my parents divorced when I was really young.Maybe they won't divorce.
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    • It's a sad thing for a child to go through. My parent's were never divorced, so I don't know that feeling. There's no guarantee that they'll get a divorce. He may have left but that could mean it's until they cool down and work things through, or it could be a separation leading to a divorce. Regardless, if they do get a divorce, just keep in mind that they both love you and that they'll be there in your life regardless. Don't think of this as something towards you - most divorced children do. It's better, though, that they do divorce if things are bad - because staying in the relationship could just make things a lot worse.
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    • Parents divorcing

      My parents divorced when I was young . I developed bad ticks. But talking to my friends who had divorced parents helped. Just talking about how angry I was about helped a lot. Find someone you trust and talk about it. Write or listen to music, I do that a lot. I'm sorry about this and I hope this helps. :)

    • Trish-Ah wrote:

      It's a sad thing for a child to go through. My parent's were never divorced, so I don't know that feeling. There's no guarantee that they'll get a divorce. He may have left but that could mean it's until they cool down and work things through, or it could be a separation leading to a divorce. Regardless, if they do get a divorce, just keep in mind that they both love you and that they'll be there in your life regardless. Don't think of this as something towards you - most divorced children do. It's better, though, that they do divorce if things are bad - because staying in the relationship could just make things a lot worse.

      I don't know this feeling well, either.. My parents were never married, but they used to have an affair. And i was just a baby when they got separated.
      Mom's always taken care of me since that young.. Never used to miss my father for real, though.. Really, i'm good. Doing fine even without him since the start, i don't really feel like i need him, specially now. Never used to. And no, it's nothing against him. I know mom and him had their problems together, but i won't let myself get affected by it, that's what i mean..
      So anyway... About what you said, about being better for parents to divorce than rather staying together for things to cool down..
      Not at all.. Sometimes people may feel confused, or either not feel like they are prepared to face such a situation, so they think that breaking up/getting divorced would solve it, rather than just discussing it.
      Maybe it's because one of them, or either both don't understand it. Nor ever had been through this before, and dealing with new experiences might be upsetting and/or confusing sometimes... Or maybe they just need some time. At least one of them. However, if one could at least understand the other's right/need for solitude, and respect it, so things may work well for them, even if they're not stick together..
      Maybe.. They need some time to think about it, organize their ideas, so they could start thinking straight once again and move on.
      However, if only a couple like this could try understanding what each other feels about it, try discussing it with no argues, respecting each other and try to find a way out, that could help both, they may get into a good deal. :)
      Otherwise, it would be difficult to just get along with a selfish partner, for example.. :/
      @Yami Sweet:
      Well, IF things don't work between them and they still decide to break up, don't be sad, alright?
      Accept it as it is. After all, these problems are for your parents themseves to resolve. It's not a reason for you to feel worried about. It wouldn't be fair with you.
      And if they are both comprehensive persons even with themselves and each other, i bet they can find a way out, even if they couldn't stay together. :)
      And Trish:
      You're right. One couple of parents wouldn't let their problems affect their relationship with their kids. They should love and respect them, despite of all. :)
      Nevertheless, Yami.. Just live your life. And don't let it affect you, okay? :)

    • Yami, people fight and it's normal. Sometimes they just need to go out to cool down. My parents fought quite a lot when I was a kid, actually, and almost each fight ended with my dad walking out and coming back in the morning. Sometimes, he packed his things and he was absent for a few days. Two years ago they almost divorced - my father applied for the divorce to the court and all. My mother was very hurt and all I could do was to support her.

      Your situation looks nothing like mine. My parents fought every day back then when I was little, not even mentioning the situation from two years ago. I'm very much convinced that your parents are not divorcing - they just had a nasty argument, that's all. Don't worry for now and let them work it out.

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      NuMetalWolf, things like a divorce is not something you can ignore. It has an impact on one's life, so what you're telling Yami is a right bullsh*t. There are situations that you even wish for your parents to divorce, so everyone could finally rest from all the arguments and fights all day, but it still hurts.

      Probably it's wrong of me to say, but sometimes the child is the person who needs to take care of the family to help the parents solve their problems. To keep the family together. No, it's not fair to the kid, but life is never fair, either.

    • use your voice, and talk to your parents, no one else (no counselor or any of those dickheads)

      if it goes through know that it has nothing to do with you, it is a rift between your parents. accept it, move on, and since you know how it feels, dont let it happen to your children

      best of luck

    • Your dad left with all his belongings?
      You should do something about it though it's not like see what happens next always you should talk to them discuss things heart to heart I know you could do something about it. You could ask help from friends,teachers, and relatives who you trust very much.
      I remember my parents fighting too and my mon ran away from home at night but I made a move I looked for her on places that I can go to but my mom was nowhere to be found. She returned on mid morning cried and said sorry to all of us it felt great for me because she returned.
      In other words make a decision move! don't just stand there bro :3 You can make a change...

    • There is sadly nothing you can do. Parents are people too, and they can't always get things to work. You need to respect that they cannot live together anymore no matter how hard it seems.

      I hope you will stay in touch with both your parents after their divorce. Just remember that you may have to make the effort sometimes, too.

    • its ok

      hey its ok

      just talk to somone like your friends or family members

      and im so sorry thats happening to you

      when that happened to me my dadd moved 3000 miles away

      i cried every night so plz cope with the pain its ok
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    • That sucks.

      Well, I don't know if this will help but, here's my option.

      I believe you should just wait until their both calm.
      Then, you guys should have a group meeting and talk it out together.

      It's not just the parents problem, it's the child's problem as well.

      hope everything works out for you.
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