How would you handle this situation?

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    • How would you handle this situation?

      You start to realize that the one you love is drifting away from you .. changing slowly. Changes in behavior and how she acts around you.

      Then one day, she comes up and asks for a break. Not a 3 or 5 day long break. A month long break. You being a person who cannot go on without talking to her for more than 3 days. How would you handle that situation?

    • Personally, i'd let her take the break. A relationship is not only about you, it's about BOTH of you. She comforts you for around, i don't know. 2 month? a year? 3 years? whatever it is, its definitely longer than a month. Now let her comforts herself *In a totally non-sexual way* for a month. It's probably as painful as getting your pet de-railed by a train, but it's for the best.

      If you're angry, don't break anybody's heart, they only have one..... Break their bones, they have 206 of them

    • Well given that she has changed a little, you might want to let her be for a bit and then try comforting her. But this doesn't sound too good because the break could mean anything. She could be trying to take her time off from you and figure out what to do. So, have hope and faith that she will come back for sure!

    • Let her have the break. Chances are, she needs that space to figure out some thoughts, especially if she has been distancing herself. I know this because in a past relationship, I had to ask for a break too... and it was well needed to improve the relationship. If she doesn't get the break... things could take a turn for the worse. Let her take a break.
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    • It can work out for the best... or for the worst, to be honest. I think it just depends on the situation, and the reasoning behind the break. I think at this point, all you can really do is just hope for the best, and give her the space that she needs. It will give her the chance to miss you, even if you are missing her terribly. It is important to remember it's not a break up. Most think that it is - but it isn't. If she stopped caring for you, she would have ended it. Chances are she has to collect her thoughts at the moment, and needs to be by herself.
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    • I hope I don't get hate, but I speak from experience. I would just break up, right there, and not get teased anymore.

      Do you ever tell your friends that you need a break? Maybe you might want some alone time, but a break from friends? Nuh-uh.

      And I can only be in a relationship with someone I consider a friend. Someone who's simple proximity makes me hella happy, and the same should be true for her.

      If it isn't, the relationship isn't mutual, and doomed to failure.

    • I'm not good at this at all. But I had a girlfriend once and she wanted to take a brake for a week or so. we were in the same situation as you are now. It felt like she was slipping away from me and she admited that she feelings for one other.

      But I let her have her brake and I was Sure to make Sure she knew that I really loved her. I was honest saying that it would be the worst days in my life so far. And I said that if she missed me too much she would be able to stop the brake.

      This was decided at the dawn and at the eve she texted me saying she was sorry and that she couldn't stand the day without my love :)
      And I love YOU random citizen!

    • Do what your heart tells you too, it can often be more reliable than the mind, in my opinion..

      Although, the mind controls all feelings right, so, both are the same 0-0

      I personally would ask her gently what was wrong, if she is worried or something has happened. If she doesn't answer, I would ask one of her close friends about her, stressing the fact that I was only worried about my girlfriend, so even if my girlfriends close friend were to tell the girlfriend, at least my girlfriend would know that I was worried..
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    • If a break is necessary to her, then perhaps it is for the best to give it to her; unfortunately it sounds like you have little choice in the matter anyway. In my experience, breaks never lead to the best, but it could be completely different in this case. I don't like the sound of this particular situation, I won't lie, but all you can do is be strong and push through it as best you can. As always, you can talk to me if need be. (Be it about this situation or just need a silly little. distraction).
      Even though relationships and breaks start out scary and may hurt in the end, you always gain something from a relationship like that. You learn how to handle various personality types, situations, and even gain some beneficial traits along the way.
      All I can say is be strong, bro, and hope for the best. If things don't turn out like what you hoped for, maybe it will be for the best in the end. Just stick it out, I know you can.

    • TrueRedRevenge wrote:


      If a break is necessary to her, then perhaps it is for the best to give it to her; unfortunately it sounds like you have little choice in the matter anyway. In my experience, breaks never lead to the best, but it could be completely different in this case. I don't like the sound of this particular situation, I won't lie, but all you can do is be strong and push through it as best you can. As always, you can talk to me if need be. (Be it about this situation or just need a silly little. distraction).
      Even though relationships and breaks start out scary and may hurt in the end, you always gain something from a relationship like that. You learn how to handle various personality types, situations, and even gain some beneficial traits along the way.
      All I can say is be strong, bro, and hope for the best. If things don't turn out like what you hoped for, maybe it will be for the best in the end. Just stick it out, I know you can.


      Thanks for the replies, guys.

      For the moment, she decided not to take the break as she thinks the two of us can help solve her problems. And, I don't think it'll turn out to be bad or anything. I know her well to know that she won't cop out like this.

      Again, thanks a lot. <3

    • Sharky wrote:


      Thanks for the replies, guys.

      For the moment, she decided not to take the break as she thinks the two of us can help solve her problems. And, I don't think it'll turn out to be bad or anything. I know her well to know that she won't cop out like this.

      Again, thanks a lot. <3

      - That is comforting to hear, glad everything is back on track for you, man. Always good to have someone to confide in like that and help out. Congrats! :)