Long Distance Relationships

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    • Long Distance Relationships

      Alright so I'm in a relationship with the best girl I could ever get, problem is she's in England and I'm in Romania. Can you please help with relationship advice, like stuff we could do together or ways to raise money faster, I need like 1000 pounds to visit her and I only got like 100 now, can't really get a job because there are no jobs around for underages so I don't really know what to do...Thanks a lot :)
      Stay awesome!
    • Also, if it is of any use, I'm 16, she's 15, we've been together for 4 months and a bit now, I got a lot of time to waste while she's mostly always busy with homework and such and we don't get to spend as much time together as we used to in the summer (which is rather obvious, idk why i mentioned it), and we kind of need to change the stuff we usually do for a bit, break the rhythm so it doesn't get too boring, so any suggestion is greatly welcomed.
      Stay awesome!
    • As much as I can say to you, since every romance is a story in and of itself, try to have as much contact as possible. While you can't actually be with her, hold on and think about WHAT you can do with her. You're underage, so I'd probably avoid sexting since it can get weird and it would probably be cause of misunderstandings (Especially since you too can be found and it wouldn't be fun).
      Try to collect money in various ways and avoid going to her on strange occasions. The best way, also the hardest unfortunately, is to arrange so that you two can be again on summer together. Raising money so you can see each other halfway and on a better situation is probably the best way to go and it can really consolidate your relationship.
      Do as many skypecalls as you can, inform her of how did you spend your day even if you don't want to. These little things in a long distance relationship are very important since it all relies on them. Try to send her stuff, even simple or stupid things, but talk to her before doing it. Surprise packs are not that good if her parents catch her and get suspicious. I don't know how her parents act or feel about all this, so I'm trying to cover the basis here.
      Oh, and don't forget to walk slowly and NEVER EVER Lie. You are creating something really sweet, but it must rely on trust.
    • Both mine and her parents do know of our relationship and yeah we do cover the 'intimate' part when we feel like it too, so it's not a problem. And yeah she's raising money too, it's easier for her to come because things are cheaper here and we will probably finally meet irl next summer, here, if student exchange doesn't work as I planned it...but thanks a lot lisselys
      Stay awesome!
    • You're welcome bro :D
      Oh, just some protip: If you can, since you said that your parents are basically ok, send her some stuff to fill her house. Not expensive things, just really cute ones.
      AAND. If you do like baking (I do, it's really fun for me), try cooking together. And by together I mean buy the same stuff and choose a recipy to do on a skype call. It will be TONS of fun just to see the two of you dealing with the telephone/Netbook, the recipy and the ENOURMOUS mess that your kitchen will become :D
    • I think another important thing is to have patience especially when you 2 will be with
      each because after either of you go back to where you live, you will miss each other
      tooooo much and you never know how long it will be until you see each other again.

      "Planning to fail is planning for failure" so you should plan and think really hard about
      how you and your girlfriend can make this work until you can see each other but your
      still young and have plenty of time, hope that made sense because I remember that
      from some girly movie :S

    • Hey bro. Just wanna mention i have been in a long distant relationship for a year, after that we moved in together, its quite do-able.
      Tho i feel you one the money issue, but yea as ppl stated before sell stuff, i wanna say old games but as a nostalgic gamer that hurts but yea xD
      Or consoles not sure where ur from, but here we got them funky cards where u can upload credit and travel. and if ur a student u travel for free!



      -Edit: did not notice the 1000 <--- pound part,
      Rob a bank!
      So i was Chillaxing in my room like a baller,
      when all of a sudden these.. Guards walk in?
      They shout to me, GET ON ON YOUR KNEES!!
      I Responded with. I'm NOT YOUR MOTHER LAST NIGHT C=
      They did not act well to it..
    • What can i say really.

      For us to really make judgement on any of these wouldn't be right, but imma go ahead and do it anyway. :P

      Thing is little man, you're 16, things do come and go. Now personally i was n a long term long distance relationship. It wasn't as long as yours, she was in the same country as me and only 8 hours away, but it's still a similar situation. I was with her for 6months, slightly longer than you, why not longer? I broke it off. It came down to a few things im not going to explain here though.

      With dating there is always a few steps, your situation in particular, and age group, the first phase is always lust. There's always lust before there is love, and with all the hormones around both your age groups things can get confusing and dramatic like she's the only one for you and everything.
      Thing is, later on, and this only really comes with experience and age, (yeah the life old 'wisdom with age thing' :P) life goes on. Let's say you broke it off with this lady, and you met someone where you live or decide to live later, sure you wont forget this girl, but there isnt as much risk.

      Im not saying don't take risks in relationships, by all means, weigh the pros and cons and if its too good, and its real, go for it, but in this case, i'd hate to see you go and visit her, fall into lust, and do anything to see her again only to later in your life realise you were so dramatic back then and that you had many other options. Sure pewdie's done it, but he was older too and had the means to do so.
      Now sure if you're some phantom of the opera looking dude and shes hot as hell and into you and she really is the best you're going to get, and there is a real chance, then by all means go for it. But here's the thing bro..
      She's 15, i gaurantee soon when all those hormones and chemicals start to rush around her body now and soon, things will change and you'll start worrying over ever guy shes talking to, or if she is doing that, and you may wind up with your heart broken.

      Now im not saying this to put anyone down or to tell anyone now to go for someone they're interested in, im just saying all this to make you more aware and truely think about it, because alot of teens don't do that nowadays, again. It all comes from experience and wisdom.

      <3
    • BurstCraftGaming wrote:

      Now im not saying this to put anyone down or to tell anyone now to go for someone they're interested in, im just saying all this to make you more aware and truely think about it, because alot of teens don't do that nowadays, again. It all comes from experience and wisdom.

      Personally, I sort of agree. I sometimes do say that my girlfriend is the only girl for me, just for the heck of it, but I have in mind that things can end. However, I still paid the 1000 euros to visit her again. Why? To live for the moment. I know it may sound stupid, but right now, it makes me happy to meet here, and it's a lot of fun. So why not use they money I earn to make my life more fun? I don't see any point in not spending anything, just hoarding all the money you get until you die lonely not even using it. (Saving up parts of it is okay though, for a new car or whatever.)
      Anyways, try to get a job, it is not as hard as many people say. And you can always check /r/longdistance .
    • Wow thanks everybody for the answers I wasn't really expecting that much attention, BurstCraftGaming I understand what you mean, but given that it works now, why not enjoy it as much as possible? mKeRix, i would get a job if i could, problem is nobody hires you around here if you're not 18 or older and thanks for the link :D
      Stay awesome!
    • Communication

      There are things you need to work it all out. Trust, respect and willingness to take RISKS.
      But one important element is communication. I think that pretty much explains it, you have to have plans for the future
      or at least meet up because if got no plans you're relationship will just hang on there at the monitor.

      :)
      Punk. Goth. Deers. Galaxy.
    • It's going to be tough

      brioshell wrote:

      Alright so I'm in a relationship with the best girl I could ever get, problem is she's in England and I'm in Romania. Can you please help with relationship advice, like stuff we could do together or ways to raise money faster, I need like1000 pounds to visit her and I only got like 100 now, can't really get a job because there are no jobs around for underages so I don't really know what to do...Thanks a lot :)
      I made an account JUST to reply to this!

      I'm going to be 100% Honest with you. It probably wont work out, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't pursue it. The reason I say it wont work is because you both are very young, you even said yourself it's hard to get a job. But it's very hard, not being able to touch the other person, or even look them in the eyes ,it's very hard. I'm in a long distance relationship myself right now :) Our one year anniversary is actually coming up (It;s on the last day of the world WHOOT!) He lived in Australia and I live in America. So it was tough~! But Thankfully i was n my second year of college, and he had just graduated high school! So we had a bit of an advantage lol Anyway I ended up saving up enough money to go visit him~! That ws back in may, and I was supposed to go back in September.... but I'm still here now lol XD Sadly Im leaving in 20 days ;n;

      Before I came it was really hard, seeing other couples and onging for each other, it was just depressing really. Communication and trust are the MOST IMPORTANT things to maintain! School comes first, because like i said earlier, you probably aren't going to make it. People hardly stay with the people they are with when they're 15, and to add to that you're thousands of miles apart. So don't sacrifice school work and your future for each other. Make sure your priorities are straight, So long as everything is good then you can talk to each other all night long lol :P

      But still go for it, because if you do get to go overseas or w/e it;s going to be one hell of an experience! Its so much fun traveling the world! And even if you don't work out, maybe you have made a friend for life, I know I have :)

      the decision to come out to Australia has literally changed my life (and Im not just saying that to be dramatic I promise lol :P) Its motivated me more, i figured if I could do this, if I work hard enough I can get other shit done too :D ) And I ended up getting All A's this semester! (the first semester in college I actually did good in lol :P)

      And now My boyfriend is a electrical engineer's apprentice :D and he makes like 15 bucks and hour and Im a lowly waitress and full time student lol :D But anwyay we're already saving up for HIM to come to America next time :P

      So you never know whats gonna happen, just live in the present, but also keep your eyes on the future :D Just tresure the fact that you both love each other and let life take you where you;re meant to be (but you can also stubbornly change that if you want lol :P) anyway Im off to bed, I have a date tomorrow <3
    • I'm romanian too, bro ;)
      You know, Apples92 could be right, cus' I know a lot of people the same age as you, which had girlfriends, but noone of them keeps a single relation more than 2 months, so I goota say: bro, you really love your girlfriend and her too, it's good for you!
      Hope the users advices will help you and you will met your girlfriend.
      ,,There's a war between a good and a bad dog in every us. It will won who we chose to feed.''
    • Alright I made a deal with my parents, if I'll keep the grades good and do chores around they'll pay for me to go there the entire first week of April !!! Apples92 thanks a lot, really, stories like yours really keep me motivated and going on, it's not really easy especially being my first relationship, and sometimes I tend to be too puppy-ish so I fear she might be taking me for granted sometimes..any advices on that? Should I say that I'm busy sometimes or do other things too? I fear we might end up getting bored and out of ideas...
      And Asteo600, awesome to see you around, dude, I was starting to think I'm alone 'round here
      Stay awesome!
    • I know the feeling. I'm in a LDR with this one girl, from America, for over 2 months. :)
      We are doing great, and we are gonna meet in Germany in a few months. ^__^
      The key to LDR is trust and patience, if you don't have those, your love is pointless... But i'm sure it's not! Stay strong brother!
      *brofist*
      "Abandon your arrogance and pride. Otherwise the pain of constant defeat will be unbearable."
      Vamana, Fifth Avatar of Vishnu