Nothing funny, just really creepy... actually, it might be funny later, it's a little funny right now. XD But I think that's my appeal to shock factor.
Short version (read this one, the other one is a headache XD): My college instructor harassed me and I had enough evidence against him to possibly get him fired. I'm still following up on that.
Long version: So I had this instructor. The way that he teaches his lectures can be downright
offensive, so they make me uncomfortable most of the time. So he asked
me last Wednesday (March 7th) what I thought as I was leaving to go home
after class, and I was honest with him "They make me uncomfortable".
When he asked why, I explained that they seem very racist and sexist,
and he took it as "You're racist and sexist".
Maybe he was under
just the right amount of stress, but he unleashed on me. Full on verbal
attacking, raised voice, complete invasion of personal space,
unnecessary accusations, ETC..
It started to get creepy when he
basically said that men are seen as villains and rapists and, let me
explain this part in detail, as his voice escalated in volume,
he stepped closer to me, much more closer than I thought necessary,
he glared at me and made a stabbing motion towards his own chest while yelling "Should I just FUCKING kill myself?" And I think it's important to point out that his twin brother committed suicide last year, so he obviously still has issues with that. So.... wtf moment there...
The
worst part was, as I tried to leave (several times) he stopped me. I
was all alone in the classroom with him, everyone else had taken off,
one girl told me that she left because she could see that he was getting
angry. In all honesty and all joking aside, I was actually terrified. I
was afraid of how far he would go. SO.
When I finally did get
home, I drafted this really well written email (yes I'm bragging,
because it was good damnit), and sent it off explaining to him the
misunderstanding. I made some pretty sound arguments and made sure he
understood that it was all perspective for me. I didn't really believe
that he meant any of the offensive statements he makes in class,
although (secretly) I do believe he makes subtle references without realizing it
because he's in his sixties and grew up in Boise Idaho. We're still a
little behind the rest of the country in terms of civil rights.
SO
here's where it goes downhill. He responded, very politely, he
apologized and agreed with everything that I said. He also gave me three
telephone numbers to reach him at, asked me out for coffee (emphasizing that he wanted to meet me in person away from the classroom), AND
politely demanded (almost threateningly) that I not share what happened
or any of our emails with anyone.... RED FUCKIN' FLAGS EVERYWHERE. The
emails continued. He bribed me in the second email, reminded me not to
share it with anyone, and in the third one told me that he had shared
something that I told him in confidence with another student in our
class. I didn't respond to any of his emails at that point.
I
took all three emails to the Dean and the Head of the Department that he
taught in. They also pointed out the number of times that he said "I
like you very much" and "Because of exceptional women like yourself."
YES I could be reading too much into any of this, but... I guess I'm
supposed to be paying attention to red flags like these.
It was
funny that seeing their reactions, and how it was far more serious than I
thought, made me feel worse. I'm actually still scared, more so than I
was over the weekend. BUT, they said never to go back to class, and I
get to stay in the class but go through the head of the department for
evaluation towards the end of the semester. This way I can remain a full
time student and keep my university health insurance. They also told me
that he'll be told never to contact me again. If he does, I won't even
respond, I'll just forward them to the dean AND head of department, and
contact campus security, and maybe even the police.
I don't
expect anyone to know this, but in Idaho a while back there was an
incident up North at another university. A young woman was killed by her
obsessed, adjunct instructor. My instructor is adjunct. And when I
brought this to their attention here they freaked out. The problem with
what happened up North is that they tried to keep it within the
university, so now they're in trouble because if the police had been
notified the woman probably wouldn't have been shot. They could've kept
an eye on it all. So... YEah... TOUGH WEEKEND. 8D
The scariest part is that Boise Idaho is a small place, I'll definitely run into him again some time in the future...
Sorry I was
gone for so long, I didn't feel like doing much. I was glad I could get
away with my friends, and I did get to do a drunk stream, that was
funny. XD Except that the stupid SCP game generated over 200 floors for
me before I gave up.
Anyway. I need to do homework, I'm just procrastinating right now, mostly because I still can't focus after what happened. I'm so angry at him.
Short version (read this one, the other one is a headache XD): My college instructor harassed me and I had enough evidence against him to possibly get him fired. I'm still following up on that.
Long version: So I had this instructor. The way that he teaches his lectures can be downright
offensive, so they make me uncomfortable most of the time. So he asked
me last Wednesday (March 7th) what I thought as I was leaving to go home
after class, and I was honest with him "They make me uncomfortable".
When he asked why, I explained that they seem very racist and sexist,
and he took it as "You're racist and sexist".
Maybe he was under
just the right amount of stress, but he unleashed on me. Full on verbal
attacking, raised voice, complete invasion of personal space,
unnecessary accusations, ETC..
It started to get creepy when he
basically said that men are seen as villains and rapists and, let me
explain this part in detail, as his voice escalated in volume,
he stepped closer to me, much more closer than I thought necessary,
he glared at me and made a stabbing motion towards his own chest while yelling "Should I just FUCKING kill myself?" And I think it's important to point out that his twin brother committed suicide last year, so he obviously still has issues with that. So.... wtf moment there...
The
worst part was, as I tried to leave (several times) he stopped me. I
was all alone in the classroom with him, everyone else had taken off,
one girl told me that she left because she could see that he was getting
angry. In all honesty and all joking aside, I was actually terrified. I
was afraid of how far he would go. SO.
When I finally did get
home, I drafted this really well written email (yes I'm bragging,
because it was good damnit), and sent it off explaining to him the
misunderstanding. I made some pretty sound arguments and made sure he
understood that it was all perspective for me. I didn't really believe
that he meant any of the offensive statements he makes in class,
although (secretly) I do believe he makes subtle references without realizing it
because he's in his sixties and grew up in Boise Idaho. We're still a
little behind the rest of the country in terms of civil rights.
SO
here's where it goes downhill. He responded, very politely, he
apologized and agreed with everything that I said. He also gave me three
telephone numbers to reach him at, asked me out for coffee (emphasizing that he wanted to meet me in person away from the classroom), AND
politely demanded (almost threateningly) that I not share what happened
or any of our emails with anyone.... RED FUCKIN' FLAGS EVERYWHERE. The
emails continued. He bribed me in the second email, reminded me not to
share it with anyone, and in the third one told me that he had shared
something that I told him in confidence with another student in our
class. I didn't respond to any of his emails at that point.
I
took all three emails to the Dean and the Head of the Department that he
taught in. They also pointed out the number of times that he said "I
like you very much" and "Because of exceptional women like yourself."
YES I could be reading too much into any of this, but... I guess I'm
supposed to be paying attention to red flags like these.
It was
funny that seeing their reactions, and how it was far more serious than I
thought, made me feel worse. I'm actually still scared, more so than I
was over the weekend. BUT, they said never to go back to class, and I
get to stay in the class but go through the head of the department for
evaluation towards the end of the semester. This way I can remain a full
time student and keep my university health insurance. They also told me
that he'll be told never to contact me again. If he does, I won't even
respond, I'll just forward them to the dean AND head of department, and
contact campus security, and maybe even the police.
I don't
expect anyone to know this, but in Idaho a while back there was an
incident up North at another university. A young woman was killed by her
obsessed, adjunct instructor. My instructor is adjunct. And when I
brought this to their attention here they freaked out. The problem with
what happened up North is that they tried to keep it within the
university, so now they're in trouble because if the police had been
notified the woman probably wouldn't have been shot. They could've kept
an eye on it all. So... YEah... TOUGH WEEKEND. 8D
The scariest part is that Boise Idaho is a small place, I'll definitely run into him again some time in the future...
Sorry I was
gone for so long, I didn't feel like doing much. I was glad I could get
away with my friends, and I did get to do a drunk stream, that was
funny. XD Except that the stupid SCP game generated over 200 floors for
me before I gave up.
Anyway. I need to do homework, I'm just procrastinating right now, mostly because I still can't focus after what happened. I'm so angry at him.
Me Zombie
