I don't understand what guys are thinking... can anyone help me?

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    • I don't understand what guys are thinking... can anyone help me?

      I am having a long distance relationship with my bf and the time difference is 7 hours, which means he would just end school when I have to sleep.
      As he is living in a house provided by the school with other schoolmates, he spend a lot of time hanging out with them, which I think is perfectly alright. I have been having bad time sleeping at night and when I wake up I would try to call him or text him. He used to pick up my call or at least text with me for a while, but now he don't pick up the midnight calls (my midnight) and just said that he's in the kitchen(hanging out with friends) and tell me to go to sleep.

      Sometimes I just want to hear his voice and that actually makes me feel better. Do boys really don't get this? I mean girls are not trying to make boys put everything they were doing on hold but just give us a few minutes (at least I am).

      I really want to know what others people think. Is it me asking too much and pushing him too far? Or am I making everything hard?
      Life is not fair, and that's the reason to work hard. :thumbsup: :brofist:

    • You aren't asking too much, you should speak with him about that. Shouldn't be a big deal pick up the phone when you're with your friends.

      Btw, I personally get annoyed when the relationship becomes only texting and calls, I want you here, not your texts so I can never imagine me on a long distance relationship.
      burn baby, burn.

    • Long distance relationships are hard.

      Chances are, he just doesn't realize how strongly you feel about this. Not everyone thinks stuff through like this. I think you also need to take into consideration that maybe your midnight calls are becoming less convenient on his end. Maybe. Not saying that's the case.

      So yeah, you should speak with him about this. The same goes for any situation you might run into in the future where you're unsure about what's going on. You need to really put forth your best effort to communicate, same goes for him, especially when it comes to how you guys feel about each other or the relationship.

    • You should talk about it with him. Tell him you want a bit more time to talk with him. ♥ He may just be taking you for granted and he may just need to be reminded how much he really cares about you. ♥ Or as much as this may upset you he could have lost interest because it is a long distance relationship. (Not every one can deal with a long distance relationship.)

      AlvaHector wrote:

      Young adult men don't get the idea that a woman wants someone to comfort then and stay close to them. They are oblivious to anybody they love, all they want to do is party.

      May I ask what kind of men you have been around and/or with? Most men I have talked with enjoy love, talking and stuff. ♥ Maybe I have just been around mentally mature people, but I have never seen stuff like what you are saying. ♥
      ♥♥♥♥♥

    • So here's the deal, As a male human being I can tell you that 85% of us have a different way to coping with our emotions than girls, you guys tend to be more open about it while we kinda crunch it up on ourselves.

      My piece of advice: Talk it over to him, so you can out the problem so you both realize it is there and then try to set a schedule, like a weekly call at a comfortable time for you both, that way you can have an outlet so you can talk about whatever is troubling you without feeling like you're smothering him and also you give him the oportunity to him to do the same thing :)

      Hope it helps :thumbsup:

    • You just need to have a talk with him and explain how you are feeling.

      When I did a long distance I also noticed this and for me it was just he wasnt as needy as I was haha However we set out plans as to when we would talk, how etc and The cost of it all until he was able to move to this country.

      I hope it works out for you, hold strong but dont hold onto it if he is being immature because he isnt ready for how hard a long distance is x