School and Why are People so Cruel?

I've been bullied for a quite long time. I was just a kid back then and I didn't understand why. Now I get some of it, but still not all. I can't say I don't care anymore. It had a huge impact on my life - because of the bullying both inside and outside the school I never had friends. Or a real childhood. I was very jealous to see my cousins having friends and spend all day outside - I didn't have anywhere to go, anyone to play with. I understood that if I want to be somewhat normal in the future I have to grow up. I was just 13 back then. And that's what I did. I started to fight them, even though all of them were much older than me, bigger and stronger. It was not an instant process - it took me awhile, but in the end it worked.
Ever since then I felt much too old for my age and I had also this annoying feeling that I missed out something important. And I did. But I had no other choice. I can't say that I'm happy now or that I have friends, but I guess it could be worse if I let them bully me.
The only thing I can say is that you shouldn't give up. Fight the bullies, but don't let them make you distrustful to other people.

Who cares about them? Just study and graduate and take care about YOURSELF first, fuck them.
If you keep on "hating" on those people, you might end up depressed and without future.
YOU is all that matters, this is Your life and you are the maker of your future.
Make 1-2 friends doesn't matter, what matters is that you become successful without worries what some bully, emo, drama queen or w/e gonna do with their life!

btw kids, cruel is whats happening in sierra leone, EVERY DAY. youre in school and not being forced to mine diamonds while you watch your family get killed before youre kidnapped

theres coffee, wake up and smell it

In my school there is almost no bullies and crul, but there is some of them in my school, but if they mess with me, i will always stands up agints them

You don't need to be bad to injure and fight ppl . If you are good , you should know that when you need to protect yourself you need to fight and injure the ppl who are bulling you .
If you are not strong , then never be alone ... try to be always surrounded with friends or adults, most likely you have a better chance to be protected in this way and escape .

For me works all the time , and I'm diffrent too from others ;)

NightskyVillain wrote:

I've been bullied for a quite long time. I was just a kid back then and I didn't understand why. Now I get some of it, but still not all. I can't say I don't care anymore. It had a huge impact on my life - because of the bullying both inside and outside the school I never had friends. Or a real childhood. I was very jealous to see my cousins having friends and spend all day outside - I didn't have anywhere to go, anyone to play with. I understood that if I want to be somewhat normal in the future I have to grow up. I was just 13 back then. And that's what I did. I started to fight them, even though all of them were much older than me, bigger and stronger. It was not an instant process - it took me awhile, but in the end it worked.
Ever since then I felt much too old for my age and I had also this annoying feeling that I missed out something important. And I did. But I had no other choice. I can't say that I'm happy now or that I have friends, but I guess it could be worse if I let them bully me.
The only thing I can say is that you shouldn't give up. Fight the bullies, but don't let them make you distrustful to other people.

yh i was bullied more when i was younger which started when i was 7 or 8 and graudally got worse until they actually beat me up but they stopped suddenly. i made some good friends but i still cant say im happy now or that i have a lots of friends (i dont really have any in school but out of school i have a few and i love them to bits) either even though im only 14 and still get picked on a bit. but im happy that its not as bad though and i argee that you shouldnt give up but shouldnt let them make you distrustful to other people which did happen to me. i think the friends i have right now, outside of school are the only people i should care about and be happy i have them and also i should c

all of you are fucked

mommy wont be there when youre on that train to the work camp

fall in line you peons, your turns coming soon enough

I have been bullied for years, I'm actually at my 2nd year without any bullying.
The thing is bullies can bully for lots of reasons.
1. Pouring their frustrations from home on you.
2. Not wanting to be bullied themselves.
3. Not wanting to lose their friends.
It might seem ridiculous but those are the most common reasons (I actually was able to befriend the bullies somehow, and one of them was even crushing on me, can you believe that? It doesn't make any sense at all right. But it's the truth).

School is probably a place where people meet up and work together. It is a simulation of the real world, but made smaller. In the real world, there are more to life than just students getting late or the bullies getting lunch money from the smaller kids. In life, people go to work late and have their salaries cut smaller. People steal businesses from other people and even take advantage of them. From school, you can see on how the person will grow up to be, and now you'll understand at the next point i will talk about.

People are really built to do the wrong things once in a while. You know what they say... When one makes a mistake the first time, it is a mistake. But when one makes the same mistake again, it isnt a mistake anymore, but it is a choice (except accidents though). People are really cruel beings. At the side, you may see people gambling to gain more, at another they abuse the people through power, and the like. Sometimes, you could be the person that is cruel to everyone. But the point is, this doesn't stop you for being you. You should stand up for yourself. Ask for reliable authorities to help you. Ask for the people you trust. Look up to good leaders and be one great member of the society. You can change the world...

...and don't forget to stay positive, okay?

Bullies pick on kids they think are weaker than them that they have power over them, it's just a power game to them. at home they could be pushed around by their cousins ect. and feel helpless but when they get to school it's like the tables have turned and now they have the chance to be the powerful one, i think it makes them feel better.

Itwas actually comproved scientifically that it gives a human way more pleasure picking on someone than taking drugs, now about cruelty at school, It's not only at school, as you get older you're environment will get more or less cruel depending on how you make your choice
Money = easy way, but wrong choices
Honesty = hard way, but right choices

People have to create titles for themselves to survive school, its somewhat like a prison. I was always the joker who would make friends with everyone no matter their background. I stood up for my friends which got me into some drama, though I'd always create a joke of it. In the end we're all human beings who have feelings.

Just to add up to people talking about bullies getting bullied in the past: there is also the 'bad parenting' issue. Forgive me, hate me, or even scorn me for this, but it is what it is.

According to I forgot who for some reason (I think it's Erik Erikson? If not, Sigmund Freud or Carl Jung?), personality problems often root down from when we are infants and toddlers. We have these 'temperaments', namely, Easy, Difficult and Slow to Warm Up. Easy people are usually the Extroverts, Slow to Warm Up as the Introverts and Shy people, and Difficult are the rebels. Infants and children change to who you want them to be and how you raise them as.

In this theory, the reason why people are experiencing problems with their "life" is because they didn't complete a past problem. For example, for an infant, it's a Trust V.S. Mistrust. If the child fails to trust his/her parents, he/she will have a hard time bonding with and loving them because this problem hasn't been solved, with which they should be solving the problem that is designated for their age group. Another example is with teenagers. Their (or our) problem is identifying themselves. If a person has trouble identifying himself and carries this problem on to the next stage of his life, he'll have thoughts like, "Why am I so alone?" "Who am I?" "Why is everyone like that, but not me?" "Why am I such a loser?" while they are in their early adulthood. That's why most teenagers who marry early have a lot of problems. They haven't finished identifying themselves yet and they've already jumped to the problem of early adults, which creates a conflict in their life and makes them very confused and depressed with their life.

If children are raised properly, they wouldn't grow up to be like these.

Of course, the environment and society plays a lot of the blame too, but it's mostly about bad parenting.

To add on to this, no one is born racist. A white toddler would just reach out to a black man because he's curious that someone has a different skin than him, but that's just it. A white toddler/kid will play with an asian toddler/kid any time and can get along pretty well.

But why is it that that kid suddenly laughed and pointed at black people when he's in his elementary days?

Children only follow what they see in adults. They know nothing, that's why they depend on us to learn more about this world. Don't say "Stop blaming all of it to the parents", because in all actuality, they're mostly at fault as to why their children turned up to what they are today.