So this is not normally something i want to ask people on the internet about but so far im clueless on what to do.
Let me explain ive been friends with this guy Martin ever since we where 6 years old (i am 18 now btw) and he has always stood out to be some level of annoying to me although hes an incredibly good friend and he is understanding when you talk to him.
Let's just say hes had it rough... and i guess thats why this is hard for me when we were 7 years old i think Martins father died of a illness i cant remember what its called sorry... but his father died, and i feel like ever since that happened he have acted like that very fragile child he has acted like a person that really is desperate for attention. Now before you dismiss me as an asshole and say "well ofcourse he would need attention his dad just died you PRICK!" let me just say i had consulted him as good as i could and its not like i call him annoying when he needs to talk about his father i was always there.
Let me give you an example he played sick alot in class not in the smaller classes but when we were like 13 years old.
He played sick alot and he always pretended that a minor injury were way worse than he made it look to be for an instance i remember when playing dodgeball in gym everytime he got hit he had to sit in the lockerroom and pretend that he had gotten an injury when he clearly didn't. I know this sounds heartless to you but believe me it was constant and believe me it was very clear that he was pretending.
He did this to get attention i believe, and even though i still felt bad for him not only had his father died but a couple of years after his fathers death his grandmother and grandfather also died, his mom back then had a very weak body and there was no doubt that she was in constant danger of dying.
In that accord i feel bad for him no one should go through their family dying one after another like that.
His mom is still alive to this day though and she is better than back then.
Alright... i think ive summed up pretty well now what he has gone through so now let me tell you... even now when we are older even now he pretends to be more hurt than he is maybe not as much but it still happens he has also made it a habit to come to me everytime he has a relationship problem.
Now i dont mind helping people out and talk to them when they have problems but he is too naive he went back to the same girl 3 times even though she clearly didnt love him the same way and she also cheated on him multiple times with different men.
Its been told to him multiple times that he shouldnt go back to her but he wont listen and when the predictable happen and she rejects him yet again he comes to me and cries about it.
I feel bad that i cant just accept him for who he is and just be there for him but as a person i cant take his constant nagging anymore i feel like a bad friend and i feel like that is why i have to say goodbye to him as a friend so that he can be with other people who will have the patience to be together with him.
The reason why this is so hard for me is because he is going through a very hard time these days with his supposed "girlfriend" whos cheated on him multiple times he has a lso these days had an ACTUAL injury for once he have had problems with his heart i actually dont know the details to that but he said something about his immune system.
Please help me how do i say goodbye to him in a respectable manne without hurting him too much? he doesnt have too many friends to begin with and i feel like severing this friendship will really hurt him a lot... but what is the point of a friendship when only one of two friends enjoy the company?
TL;DR How do i sever a friendship with a very old friend who has started to annoy me?
Let me explain ive been friends with this guy Martin ever since we where 6 years old (i am 18 now btw) and he has always stood out to be some level of annoying to me although hes an incredibly good friend and he is understanding when you talk to him.
Let's just say hes had it rough... and i guess thats why this is hard for me when we were 7 years old i think Martins father died of a illness i cant remember what its called sorry... but his father died, and i feel like ever since that happened he have acted like that very fragile child he has acted like a person that really is desperate for attention. Now before you dismiss me as an asshole and say "well ofcourse he would need attention his dad just died you PRICK!" let me just say i had consulted him as good as i could and its not like i call him annoying when he needs to talk about his father i was always there.
Let me give you an example he played sick alot in class not in the smaller classes but when we were like 13 years old.
He played sick alot and he always pretended that a minor injury were way worse than he made it look to be for an instance i remember when playing dodgeball in gym everytime he got hit he had to sit in the lockerroom and pretend that he had gotten an injury when he clearly didn't. I know this sounds heartless to you but believe me it was constant and believe me it was very clear that he was pretending.
He did this to get attention i believe, and even though i still felt bad for him not only had his father died but a couple of years after his fathers death his grandmother and grandfather also died, his mom back then had a very weak body and there was no doubt that she was in constant danger of dying.
In that accord i feel bad for him no one should go through their family dying one after another like that.
His mom is still alive to this day though and she is better than back then.
Alright... i think ive summed up pretty well now what he has gone through so now let me tell you... even now when we are older even now he pretends to be more hurt than he is maybe not as much but it still happens he has also made it a habit to come to me everytime he has a relationship problem.
Now i dont mind helping people out and talk to them when they have problems but he is too naive he went back to the same girl 3 times even though she clearly didnt love him the same way and she also cheated on him multiple times with different men.
Its been told to him multiple times that he shouldnt go back to her but he wont listen and when the predictable happen and she rejects him yet again he comes to me and cries about it.
I feel bad that i cant just accept him for who he is and just be there for him but as a person i cant take his constant nagging anymore i feel like a bad friend and i feel like that is why i have to say goodbye to him as a friend so that he can be with other people who will have the patience to be together with him.
The reason why this is so hard for me is because he is going through a very hard time these days with his supposed "girlfriend" whos cheated on him multiple times he has a lso these days had an ACTUAL injury for once he have had problems with his heart i actually dont know the details to that but he said something about his immune system.
Please help me how do i say goodbye to him in a respectable manne without hurting him too much? he doesnt have too many friends to begin with and i feel like severing this friendship will really hurt him a lot... but what is the point of a friendship when only one of two friends enjoy the company?
TL;DR How do i sever a friendship with a very old friend who has started to annoy me?
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