What do you guys think of this situaion??

CookieKiko · Oct 28th 2012, 4:10pm

Coming from a girl here. It sounds to be this girl has a huge crush on this friend of your's. If she is getting vulshy with you and getting defensive if you ask about what she's up to.

The best thing you can do is to back off and leave her be. It sounds like she is really into this guy she is texting all day and mimicking the stuff he is into to catch his attention.

I get the fact that it makes it kind of hard because you two have a history and from what I read I get the impression you still have feelings for her. Speaking out of kindness here and to save lots of heartache, let her follow her heart.

"If you truly love someone, you would let them go and be happy, that way if they come back to you then it proves you are meant to be."

blackboard2893 · Oct 29th 2012, 2:48am

Thank you for everyone's help but unfortunately, the worst has happened to me. She asked me to tell what had happened between me and her to all of our friends and I did. She said it was the right thing to do. I told her to tell her viewpoint and our friends said that they will not make any serious judgement about the situation but unfortunately... I predicted that if she said her story to them, they would all abandon me and I was correct. They all abandoned me by disconnecting me on Skype and she doesn't even want to see me anymore. She told me that the group is no longer allowing me contact with them.

Thank you all for your support, unfortunately I've just lost the very things I held close. Thank you all indeed. I hope none of you ever get this situation.

CORMANO · Oct 29th 2012, 5:32pm

blackboard2893 wrote:

Thank you for everyone's help but unfortunately, the worst has happened to me. She asked me to tell what had happened between me and her to all of our friends and I did. She said it was the right thing to do. I told her to tell her viewpoint and our friends said that they will not make any serious judgement about the situation but unfortunately... I predicted that if she said her story to them, they would all abandon me and I was correct. They all abandoned me by disconnecting me on Skype and she doesn't even want to see me anymore. She told me that the group is no longer allowing me contact with them.

Thank you all for your support, unfortunately I've just lost the very things I held close. Thank you all indeed. I hope none of you ever get this situation.

So they just went ahead and abandoned you? Well... I don't exactly know what it is that you have done in order to deserve such punishments and I cannot take sides either for I do not even know you in real life, therefore I can only give you information based on what I know but ensuring I keep the side of others as well. For me, if they said that they will not judge you it would be more likely that they did this because whatever the girl has said to them, they have taken her view more for they are more likely to listen to her as they see her as 'the victim'. I thought this was merely about her liking someone else, I didn't think that you were in a situation where you would lose many people and not just her and therefore only gave you suggestions based on the info that you have given us. If they were truly your friends, they should have done something to help you as well, not just help that girl you like. My friend, you have been duped by your so called 'friends'. What more can you do? I don't know. Cormano is no miracle worker but if you have other friends you can spend time with, it would be best to just go with them for the time being because they are more likely to try and support you.

Mech__Warrior · Oct 29th 2012, 6:28pm

blackboard2893 wrote:

Thank you for everyone's help but unfortunately, the worst has happened to me. She asked me to tell what had happened between me and her to all of our friends and I did. She said it was the right thing to do. I told her to tell her viewpoint and our friends said that they will not make any serious judgement about the situation but unfortunately... I predicted that if she said her story to them, they would all abandon me and I was correct. They all abandoned me by disconnecting me on Skype and she doesn't even want to see me anymore. She told me that the group is no longer allowing me contact with them.

Thank you all for your support, unfortunately I've just lost the very things I held close. Thank you all indeed. I hope none of you ever get this situation.

That sucks dude, happened to me before and if you need someone to help you out, let me know.

jinxielocks · Oct 30th 2012, 2:37am

CORMANO wrote:

blackboard2893 wrote:

Thank you for everyone's help but unfortunately, the worst has happened to me. She asked me to tell what had happened between me and her to all of our friends and I did. She said it was the right thing to do. I told her to tell her viewpoint and our friends said that they will not make any serious judgement about the situation but unfortunately... I predicted that if she said her story to them, they would all abandon me and I was correct. They all abandoned me by disconnecting me on Skype and she doesn't even want to see me anymore. She told me that the group is no longer allowing me contact with them.

Thank you all for your support, unfortunately I've just lost the very things I held close. Thank you all indeed. I hope none of you ever get this situation.

So they just went ahead and abandoned you? Well... I don't exactly know what it is that you have done in order to deserve such punishments and I cannot take sides either for I do not even know you in real life, therefore I can only give you information based on what I know but ensuring I keep the side of others as well. For me, if they said that they will not judge you it would be more likely that they did this because whatever the girl has said to them, they have taken her view more for they are more likely to listen to her as they see her as 'the victim'. I thought this was merely about her liking someone else, I didn't think that you were in a situation where you would lose many people and not just her and therefore only gave you suggestions based on the info that you have given us. If they were truly your friends, they should have done something to help you as well, not just help that girl you like. My friend, you have been duped by your so called 'friends'. What more can you do? I don't know. Cormano is no miracle worker but if you have other friends you can spend time with, it would be best to just go with them for the time being because they are more likely to try and support you.

Cormano is right, dude. They weren't true friends to begin with. It's tough losing friends over break ups (going through that currently actually for similar reasons of he said she said b.s.) As personal advice, which may have been repeated over and over by now, is that it will get brighter. We're so young in comparison to our own longevity that this will seem like a minor bump. And how you deal with this now, will define your character in the future. You will find true friends, trust me. Ones that will stick with you through thick and thin. One's that won't sit there and flip flop around because of popularity or "he said she said" stuff. It's a tough road, and I'm sure there are a few friends out there you can still talk to. Heck, you got us. And that's something. And that's better than the fake friends she seems to surround herself in. My friend, Karma works in mysterious ways, and what comes around goes around. I know the tunnel seems dark, and feels like eternity, but you will find that door that will lead to happiness.

blackboard2893 · Oct 31st 2012, 1:33am

jinxielocks wrote:

CORMANO wrote:

blackboard2893 wrote:

Thank you for everyone's help but unfortunately, the worst has happened to me. She asked me to tell what had happened between me and her to all of our friends and I did. She said it was the right thing to do. I told her to tell her viewpoint and our friends said that they will not make any serious judgement about the situation but unfortunately... I predicted that if she said her story to them, they would all abandon me and I was correct. They all abandoned me by disconnecting me on Skype and she doesn't even want to see me anymore. She told me that the group is no longer allowing me contact with them.

Thank you all for your support, unfortunately I've just lost the very things I held close. Thank you all indeed. I hope none of you ever get this situation.

So they just went ahead and abandoned you? Well... I don't exactly know what it is that you have done in order to deserve such punishments and I cannot take sides either for I do not even know you in real life, therefore I can only give you information based on what I know but ensuring I keep the side of others as well. For me, if they said that they will not judge you it would be more likely that they did this because whatever the girl has said to them, they have taken her view more for they are more likely to listen to her as they see her as 'the victim'. I thought this was merely about her liking someone else, I didn't think that you were in a situation where you would lose many people and not just her and therefore only gave you suggestions based on the info that you have given us. If they were truly your friends, they should have done something to help you as well, not just help that girl you like. My friend, you have been duped by your so called 'friends'. What more can you do? I don't know. Cormano is no miracle worker but if you have other friends you can spend time with, it would be best to just go with them for the time being because they are more likely to try and support you.

Cormano is right, dude. They weren't true friends to begin with. It's tough losing friends over break ups (going through that currently actually for similar reasons of he said she said b.s.) As personal advice, which may have been repeated over and over by now, is that it will get brighter. We're so young in comparison to our own longevity that this will seem like a minor bump. And how you deal with this now, will define your character in the future. You will find true friends, trust me. Ones that will stick with you through thick and thin. One's that won't sit there and flip flop around because of popularity or "he said she said" stuff. It's a tough road, and I'm sure there are a few friends out there you can still talk to. Heck, you got us. And that's something. And that's better than the fake friends she seems to surround herself in. My friend, Karma works in mysterious ways, and what comes around goes around. I know the tunnel seems dark, and feels like eternity, but you will find that door that will lead to happiness.

Thanks for that. I'm really depressed right now though, I've literally shut myself from anyone at this moment in time and decided that only this forum can keep me in tact just until I can get my act together. I have a serious case of Mania because so much has hit me within such short time and with my 'friends' as you put them as well as the girl I like... Well, let's just say that I have finally become mad.

http://twitpic.com/9vddtv/full

The image I attached is what best describes what I feel like right now. I found it on Twitter when someone retweeted it and I just kept it ever since.

Leafy · Nov 2nd 2012, 3:01am

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WAT. WAT. FUCKING. BITCH... :C
-hug- You sir, I'm sorry man. That fucking blows, and you know, she's a bitch...
-pat pat- You sound like a good guy.

Cirno · Nov 2nd 2012, 3:03am

Leafy wrote:

Well, she sounds like she's pulling a 'Deny-Dump-Date Again' move...although your other friend if he's your friend should tell her that he's not interested in her if she's really coming onto him as you say she is. And if she's just flat out lying, you should tell her that lying isn't helping her situation.
OR~
You could pull a Leafy, by doing the same thing she's doing to you.
If you want, I'll give you my number and we'll see how she reacts to something like that c:

Yes, I'm dead serious, if she doesn't understand it, well, show her it yourself.

Don't let Heiko hear it :3 .

blackboard2893 · Nov 2nd 2012, 3:28am

Something tells me she got a guy to start visiting her. This guy is not my close friend, it was someone else. This guy has a crush on her and she's making him visit her. Something tells me that she might be going to let him go out with her in order to ensure that I do not get involved in her life now. I think she is just going to play around now... I don't know if she just wants him around as a security thing or if they have something going on but whatever it is, it is making me feel like I am being continued to be tortured in a game I already know I lost and she just doesn't want to stop hurting me... I talked to my psychologist but he couldn't give me any real time help as he is somewhere else right now... I'm slowly losing it.

CORMANO · Nov 2nd 2012, 3:43am

blackboard2893 wrote:

Something tells me she got a guy to start visiting her. This guy is not my close friend, it was someone else. This guy has a crush on her and she's making him visit her. Something tells me that she might be going to let him go out with her in order to ensure that I do not get involved in her life now. I think she is just going to play around now... I don't know if she just wants him around as a security thing or if they have something going on but whatever it is, it is making me feel like I am being continued to be tortured in a game I already know I lost and she just doesn't want to stop hurting me... I talked to my psychologist but he couldn't give me any real time help as he is somewhere else right now... I'm slowly losing it.

My friend, it is time you pull yourself together and find some other people to hang out with. I know exactly what is going to happen here, you will start seeing her spend more time with him and you will do nothing but get angry and try to destroy yourself by blaming yourself for everything that has happened. If you haven't seen my new thread already, I have just put up a thread where you can explain what had happened and we can try to help you out. To me, it seems like she is now doing the 'Spend time with another guy' trick. I had this before with another one of my ex girlfriends. What she did was she said to be she just didn't want a relationship after our breakup, the next day she started spending time with this man and they were already in a relationship. I got replaced in a day, what's more, it was near Valentines day which she said she was really excited for when she was with me!

I would escape this disaster now. My current ex decided to destroy all communications from me much like yours and she has her guy friends to back her up while I have jack squat. I started talking to this oddball of a girl who goes to the same college and I will admit, she actually helped me get through tough times by being just what she is... An oddball (she talked about peeing on cats... Really odd indeed >.>). It's time you went and spent your time with some great friends, focus on your life, give yourself some value. This girl you are talking about sounds like she just wants a man for attention. Trust us on this one, if you continue to pursue her, you are playing a dangerous game... And you will only end up losing so go and put it to your advantage by showing her you don't need her.

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