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    • What do you guys think of this situaion??

      Hello bros!

      I just thought this might be a good place to ask this question after reading the thread called 'Still Worth it?'. I'm quite new but I wanted to see what you guys thought of this situation I'm in.

      The situation is that there's this girl whom I am close friends with. We dated a while ago but then we stopped, she said that she's just not interested in relationships at this moment in time. I said ok, if that's the case then sure, let's be friends. However, lately she has been acting really odd. For the past few days, all she does is text. I thought she must be talking to a lot of people since she has a group work in school however I noticed that the name of the person she is texting everyday is always the same. It got me suspicious so I asked her who she was texting. It was an good friend of mine whom she used to have a crush on. Lately, all she does is text him, whenever I start a conversation with her, she always has to have her phone and text him at some point during any time of the day, morning or evening. My suspicions became increasingly strong when I recently went on tumblr to find out that she had been on it and all she had been reblogging is the same things that the guy she text reblogs. I asked her if she likes him but she denies it, but everyday, she would text him, and she would reblog everything on his tumblr and it begins to flood my own tumblr space. Her reason apparently for reblogging him so much is because 'she has the same interest' however I find it really funny because she has never been on tumblr for almost a year then suddenly BAM, new account and all she reblogs is majority of the guys stuff... The funny thing is, what the guy reblogs, some of it came from me and yet she reblogs it off him instead of mine even though it was my reblog first. It's not that I want her to reblog me as well or something, I just find it suspicious because it's almost the same thing every single day.

      What do you bros think? I don't like to ask such questions but I'm running low on options because everyday, I always ask her those questions and she either blocks me off by ignoring me, or she starts shouting and arguing with me.

      Please help a bro out... As much as I want to just let her do what she wants, I hate it when people are lying to me :/

    • Honestly, I wouldn't talk to her about it... I've found that the best way to get answers would be to ask your friend. If he's a true friend he'll tell you the truth and if you ask him to leave her alone because you still like her then he should. I've had a so called "friend" come up to me at school before asking if they can ask out my ex and I just looked at him like... *are you fucking serious* and this other time I heard a rumour that my ex was sending naked pictures to some older dude at my college... I ask her - I get a lie, I ask him and he sends me the damn photos for proof and apologises to my face...

      So seriously dude, if you're looking for straight answers do NOT ask her, ask your friend or let him know you have a suspicion that she likes him butd don't go all bad cop on his ass and start interrogating him :') just kind of ease it into everyday conversation like "hey man, any girls you like?" or "talked to anyone decent recently?" you know, stuff like that :) best of luck! Girls can be tricky XD
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    • Girls are some confusing people, from what your say, it sounds like she does have a crush. But honestly its her business whether she has an interest in him. So give her a little space with it, but if its so regular you can't even talk to her, try to sit her down and talk to her face to face saying how you feel. But im sure she will eventually get back to herself, try being with some other friends and let her have her space. My two cents
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    • Mattoa wrote:

      Girls are some confusing people, from what your say, it sounds like she does have a crush. But honestly its her business whether she has an interest in him. So give her a little space with it, but if its so regular you can't even talk to her, try to sit her down and talk to her face to face saying how you feel. But im sure she will eventually get back to herself, try being with some other friends and let her have her space. My two cents


      I'd say we can't even talk through text. I'd say hi to her through text she won't even reply to it, and if she does reply to it, it usually takes the whole day before I even get any replies back and when I ask her why it took her so long to merely say hi back, she says 'I'm busy'.

      Rune wrote:

      Honestly, I wouldn't talk to her about it... I've found that the best way to get answers would be to ask your friend. If he's a true friend he'll tell you the truth and if you ask him to leave her alone because you still like her then he should. I've had a so called "friend" come up to me at school before asking if they can ask out my ex and I just looked at him like... *are you fucking serious* and this other time I heard a rumour that my ex was sending naked pictures to some older dude at my college... I ask her - I get a lie, I ask him and he sends me the damn photos for proof and apologises to my face...

      So seriously dude, if you're looking for straight answers do NOT ask her, ask your friend or let him know you have a suspicion that she likes him butd don't go all bad cop on his ass and start interrogating him :') just kind of ease it into everyday conversation like "hey man, any girls you like?" or "talked to anyone decent recently?" you know, stuff like that :) best of luck! Girls can be tricky XD


      Actually, I did that before already. My friend and I are really close, we're literally like brothers. He said he has no interest in her but he does have some sort of suspicion. He even went to me and said that she had a problem and I should go help her instead. He told me not to tell her that he didn't want to talk to her because he didn't want her to know he was getting annoyed. I think this time, I'm just curious as to what exactly her intentions are :/

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    • Be careful my friend. I've been in situations like these where someone I like says they don't like anyone else but they blatantly do. The thing about this is, the reason she is denying it is because she prefers to keep it to herself. She doesn't want her privacy to be compromised in any way, shape or form so she tries to avert it by ignoring you. Personally, I think she does have a crush or interest in your friend because her continuously texting him doesn't sound normal at all. She may be trying to get his attention more or maybe even trying to get to close to him as much as she could, but the thing is you need to simply move it towards the next direction and do your own things. I've said to many before, if you truly love someone, let them go. They come back to you, they're yours. If they don't, they were never yours to begin with.


      If you start ignoring her, there is a good chance that she will start to want to get your attention. If you two are close friends right now, then she will want to get the attention of yours because you are the closest person to her in terms of friendship. Don't be a b**ch to her though and completely block her out, but don't show weakness either. It's complicated I know but it can be done. You just need to make sure you don't get the short end of the stick so keep an eye out for opportunities to find out more about what it is she truly wants.

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    • Well from what you've replied to, i think she's one of those girls who don't really care about her friends as much as her obsession. I'd just leave her alone for now man. Nothing more you can do, once she finishes being obsessed over this guy, she may start talking with you again, whether you choose to be friends with her at that is time is your choice. Good luck man.
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    • FEMALE REPLYING WITH FEMALE WORDS OF WISDOM:

      It seems she's distancing herself for a reason. Because she's finding out she likes someone else, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings because you, too, are friends. She's probably afraid she's gonna lose you as a friend if she confides that "ya I think I like this guy". My advice to you, would be to start doing the same. Not all shady or whatever, but just take a step back and look at the other fishies in the sea, or school work, or games, or friends. Life's too short to worry about relationships and all that drama. If you show her you can have a life outside of her as well maybe she'll feel more comfortable confiding with you as a friend. But keep in mind, people grow and people change. Sometimes together and sometimes apart. It's a sad thing about life, really it is. But it's something we all come to terms with eventually one way or another. And maybe that's what's happening.

      Or I could be wrong and it's totally nothing, in which case don't read too much into it. That will push her away as well. She may feel smothered. She needs time and space, and you my friend do too :)
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    • jinxielocks wrote:

      FEMALE REPLYING WITH FEMALE WORDS OF WISDOM:

      It seems she's distancing herself for a reason. Because she's finding out she likes someone else, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings because you, too, are friends. She's probably afraid she's gonna lose you as a friend if she confides that "ya I think I like this guy". My advice to you, would be to start doing the same. Not all shady or whatever, but just take a step back and look at the other fishies in the sea, or school work, or games, or friends. Life's too short to worry about relationships and all that drama. If you show her you can have a life outside of her as well maybe she'll feel more comfortable confiding with you as a friend. But keep in mind, people grow and people change. Sometimes together and sometimes apart. It's a sad thing about life, really it is. But it's something we all come to terms with eventually one way or another. And maybe that's what's happening.

      Or I could be wrong and it's totally nothing, in which case don't read too much into it. That will push her away as well. She may feel smothered. She needs time and space, and you my friend do too :)
      This girl is right! If I were you, I would just let her be and focus on everything else in life at this moment in time. I'm in a sort of similar situation with you anyway. Someone whom I know goes to tumblr and reblogs the same things from the same guy as well but personally these days, I just focus on my own things. If she does indeed like this guy, if I were you I would just spend time with your friends and have a good time. It's not easy to ignore it, but it's rather the best way to deal with it at this moment in time until she wants to talk to you or admit to you if she does or doesn't like you.


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    • CORMANO wrote:

      jinxielocks wrote:

      FEMALE REPLYING WITH FEMALE WORDS OF WISDOM:

      It seems she's distancing herself for a reason. Because she's finding out she likes someone else, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings because you, too, are friends. She's probably afraid she's gonna lose you as a friend if she confides that "ya I think I like this guy". My advice to you, would be to start doing the same. Not all shady or whatever, but just take a step back and look at the other fishies in the sea, or school work, or games, or friends. Life's too short to worry about relationships and all that drama. If you show her you can have a life outside of her as well maybe she'll feel more comfortable confiding with you as a friend. But keep in mind, people grow and people change. Sometimes together and sometimes apart. It's a sad thing about life, really it is. But it's something we all come to terms with eventually one way or another. And maybe that's what's happening.

      Or I could be wrong and it's totally nothing, in which case don't read too much into it. That will push her away as well. She may feel smothered. She needs time and space, and you my friend do too :)
      This girl is right! If I were you, I would just let her be and focus on everything else in life at this moment in time. I'm in a sort of similar situation with you anyway. Someone whom I know goes to tumblr and reblogs the same things from the same guy as well but personally these days, I just focus on my own things. If she does indeed like this guy, if I were you I would just spend time with your friends and have a good time. It's not easy to ignore it, but it's rather the best way to deal with it at this moment in time until she wants to talk to you or admit to you if she does or doesn't like you.


      OOC: You the same blackboard2893 on tumblr that follows me? My blog is ChronoPinoyX lolz, you sound familiar xD.


      I see... I guess I should just give her time then, thank you all for giving me some great advice. I wanted to know for sure if she did indeed have a crush on him because I didn't want to be pulled around with lose strings to find out that it was someone else she liked. Thank you again everyone, especially jinxielocks for making me understand that she might not want me to get hurt.

      To Cormano: I checked on tumblr for ChronoPinoyX, it seems like there is someone in my following list with that name. If that is you indeed, it feels odd to find a tumblr follower in PewDiePie's forum :D

    • (Sorry for saying this maybe I'm just in troll mode, if so please forgive my transgressions) Dude! you don't own the girl, and her life isn't yours! you can't always have the girl you like, like you back. If she likes another guy then she has every right to pursue that guy be it realistic or not, it's her choice. Oh and consider this - how old are you? i'm guessing in the region of 13-18 (maybe even 20? idk) the fact is, your still young, whoever you go out with or shag or have meaningful relationships with now, probably won't really matter at all in the grand scheme of things. You'll meet many more mystifying beauties and charming vixens in the future out in the wide world than you will in highschool or college or whatever. Chances are you do not even know the person you'll marry (if you decide to) and haven't even seen their face. I'm not trying to say developing social skills now isn't important, or that you shouldn't enjoy yourself and flirte avec les filles, mais ce n'est pas important...I mean, It's not important, and should everything go wrong with the girls NOW, you have sooooooo much more time, soooooo many more chances, with sooooooo many more women, that may be sooooooo many more times as fantastic as your current choices! pfff, lecture over, sorry, this won't happen too often :D.

    • Widge wrote:

      (Sorry for saying this maybe I'm just in troll mode, if so please forgive my transgressions) Dude! you don't own the girl, and her life isn't yours! you can't always have the girl you like, like you back. If she likes another guy then she has every right to pursue that guy be it realistic or not, it's her choice. Oh and consider this - how old are you? i'm guessing in the region of 13-18 (maybe even 20? idk) the fact is, your still young, whoever you go out with or shag or have meaningful relationships with now, probably won't really matter at all in the grand scheme of things. You'll meet many more mystifying beauties and charming vixens in the future out in the wide world than you will in highschool or college or whatever. Chances are you do not even know the person you'll marry (if you decide to) and haven't even seen their face. I'm not trying to say developing social skills now isn't important, or that you shouldn't enjoy yourself and flirte avec les filles, mais ce n'est pas important...I mean, It's not important, and should everything go wrong with the girls NOW, you have sooooooo much more time, soooooo many more chances, with sooooooo many more women, that may be sooooooo many more times as fantastic as your current choices! pfff, lecture over, sorry, this won't happen too often :D.


      Hahaha I don't mind you saying all that, if anything I can use any help I can get whether they are trolling or not, as long as information is there (which it is if I say so myself, so you're not really trolling). I'm not possessive of anyone so don't worry, she's just one of those females (not saying all females are) who say they want you so much in their life that they can't live without you etc. and they get all jealous when you start talking to other girls then suddenly they switch their minds around after a couple months because they find someone else more interesting. Oh well, at least now I'm free to do whatever I want now.

    • blackboard2893 wrote:

      Widge wrote:

      (Sorry for saying this maybe I'm just in troll mode, if so please forgive my transgressions) Dude! you don't own the girl, and her life isn't yours! you can't always have the girl you like, like you back. If she likes another guy then she has every right to pursue that guy be it realistic or not, it's her choice. Oh and consider this - how old are you? i'm guessing in the region of 13-18 (maybe even 20? idk) the fact is, your still young, whoever you go out with or shag or have meaningful relationships with now, probably won't really matter at all in the grand scheme of things. You'll meet many more mystifying beauties and charming vixens in the future out in the wide world than you will in highschool or college or whatever. Chances are you do not even know the person you'll marry (if you decide to) and haven't even seen their face. I'm not trying to say developing social skills now isn't important, or that you shouldn't enjoy yourself and flirte avec les filles, mais ce n'est pas important...I mean, It's not important, and should everything go wrong with the girls NOW, you have sooooooo much more time, soooooo many more chances, with sooooooo many more women, that may be sooooooo many more times as fantastic as your current choices! pfff, lecture over, sorry, this won't happen too often :D.


      Hahaha I don't mind you saying all that, if anything I can use any help I can get whether they are trolling or not, as long as information is there (which it is if I say so myself, so you're not really trolling). I'm not possessive of anyone so don't worry, she's just one of those females (not saying all females are) who say they want you so much in their life that they can't live without you etc. and they get all jealous when you start talking to other girls then suddenly they switch their minds around after a couple months because they find someone else more interesting. Oh well, at least now I'm free to do whatever I want now.

      That's a good way of looking at it! :)
      But after reading that I feel I need a cigarette and a long think whilst taking a luke-warm shower XD
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    • blackboard2893 wrote:

      Widge wrote:

      (Sorry for saying this maybe I'm just in troll mode, if so please forgive my transgressions) Dude! you don't own the girl, and her life isn't yours! you can't always have the girl you like, like you back. If she likes another guy then she has every right to pursue that guy be it realistic or not, it's her choice. Oh and consider this - how old are you? i'm guessing in the region of 13-18 (maybe even 20? idk) the fact is, your still young, whoever you go out with or shag or have meaningful relationships with now, probably won't really matter at all in the grand scheme of things. You'll meet many more mystifying beauties and charming vixens in the future out in the wide world than you will in highschool or college or whatever. Chances are you do not even know the person you'll marry (if you decide to) and haven't even seen their face. I'm not trying to say developing social skills now isn't important, or that you shouldn't enjoy yourself and flirte avec les filles, mais ce n'est pas important...I mean, It's not important, and should everything go wrong with the girls NOW, you have sooooooo much more time, soooooo many more chances, with sooooooo many more women, that may be sooooooo many more times as fantastic as your current choices! pfff, lecture over, sorry, this won't happen too often :D.


      Hahaha I don't mind you saying all that, if anything I can use any help I can get whether they are trolling or not, as long as information is there (which it is if I say so myself, so you're not really trolling). I'm not possessive of anyone so don't worry, she's just one of those females (not saying all females are) who say they want you so much in their life that they can't live without you etc. and they get all jealous when you start talking to other girls then suddenly they switch their minds around after a couple months because they find someone else more interesting. Oh well, at least now I'm free to do whatever I want now.
      As long as you be careful with the situation I'm sure you'll do fine. The thing is there are people in this world that take others for granted and they just need a good nudge towards realisation. It sounds like she rushed it into getting with you and she hasn't really taken to consideration the fact that there might be someone else there for her. I would advice you to just keep it at friends until such a time when she realises her true feelings. If her true feelings favour you, slowly build from there, if it favours his crush or whomever it was, then go and enjoy life to it's fullest. You don't want to weave a thread that you cannot escape so make sure you weave it loosely. This means keep it at a good friendship level and try to avoid everyday contact, don't hate on her unless she becomes an obnoxious bitch in which case feel free to hate on her.

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    • I agree with what the others have said so far. Give her some time and hopefully everything will unfold eventually. Being a girl myself, I can understand how she would be getting caught up in actually having the interest of her crush :P (though thats no reason to ignore your friend) She could just be totally afraid to admit she's interested in your friend, and the same for him. If they still haven't told you anything after time, she still shouts at you or ignores you when you try ask her about it, then frankly I dont think she's worth your time. I know thats a bit harsh but I've recently been through the situation of loosing my best friend. You soon start to realize they were simply never worth it. Hopefully all goes well though and you stay friends :3 Good luck!
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    • By the way you were talking, I can say, that you have still some feelings for her.So my advice - let it be. It is not worth it losing a good friend so you hear a No, or if you get a Yes, I doubt it will last really long. Usually good friends stay good friends, only. Usually.So, if she is not the most beautiful and ''perfect'' girl in the world, let her be and continue. If you do not have feelings for her however, I have no idea why you are so interested.